Hello Gorgeous Prose by Kris Jordan

Hello Gorgeous

prose by Kris Jordan

Intellectually I know my beauty doesn’t change day by day. But I still look in the mirror to judge it.
Some days, I am rather impressed.

I see my reflection and push my shoulders back, smile and say, “Damn!”

My confidence radiates and shakes the ether.

Other days I see my reflection and divert my eyes with disgust and wonder how anyone could ever find me attractive.

The mirror isn’t having a bad day. It never does.

The only thing it truly shows me is my perception.

I can’t control my mirror.
But, I can choose my perception.

Hello, gorgeous!

Author’s Commentary

I think this poem is pretty straight forward. It may be considered prose because of that. If you don’t feel you are a poet, or can’t write poetry, you may want to consider prose. Here is a simple graphic that explains the difference: Poetry vs. Prose

Prose and poetry are both ways to look differently at life. It gives us time to reflect on something happening and summing it up through examination. Sometimes by putting our feelings on paper, we gain objectivity we don’t have when we allow it to spin through our heads. For me, writing is a form of therapy, and there are lots of therapuetic methods that use journalling, writing, and other creative expressions to help us process and move through something that is or has troubled us.

Many times I believe we are attracted to songs for this same reason- they give us a voice that pin points our feelings. We may like the beat and sound, but often the words draw us in. We get to sing or say what we haven’t expressed, try on a new point of view, pretend, identify and more.

What words have had an impact on you- whether poetry, prose, or song? Do you or have you ever used journalling for therapy or reflection?

Today, I issue you a challenge to sit and journal about something that is bothering you. Pretend you are someone else going through the problem. How does this character solve it? What advice do you give him or her?

How does this objectivity support you?

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In Her Shoes Poetry by Kris Jordan

In Her Shoes

Perspective Poetry (c) Kris Jordan

I’m here, dripping sweat down my nose, working hard. Scrubbing the floors, the counters, the refrigerator shelves. Burning off this damn energy.
Thinking of you.
Wondering why I did you wrong.
Slamming the vacuum into the corner. Cussing as I roll over my foot. Kicking my ass for hurting you.

That cobweb in the corner.
That burnt out lightbulb.
How long have they been like that? Guess I didn’t notice them either. Left you, and them, sitting alone in that dark, dirty room, letting you rot.

I’m sorry for forgetting your heart.
For words left unsaid and those words that came spilling out so carelessly like cockroaches scattering towards the shadows where they belong.

I’m sorry I turn off.
Disappear inside my head. Become as warm and loving as the underside of a rock on the top of Pikes Peak where we rode the Cog Railroad and laughed and talked and you told me your dream. Your dream of helping hurting children.
You do that. Because your heart is so beautiful. So pure. You can heal them. I believe in you.

I don’t believe in me.
I don’t know how you manage to pump blood into my heart, bring me to life, invite my sense of adventure out to play. I don’t know how your magic kick-starts my breath as you cause me to gasp for air, inhale, breathe you in, fill my lungs.

You make me pant for more of the love you give.
In those moments when the sweat drips down my nose and your moisture drips down your leg, I am free. In those moments when I am present with you, my heart attempts to break through everything holding it down.
I want you. I want you. I want you.
I love you.

Author’s Commentary

This poem had several layers for me, and as often writing and/or poetry do, I didn’t discover it until I read it again. That’s the beautiful thing about life- we can take a different perspective at any time and see a situation differently. For example- read the poem through the eyes of one lover to another. Then, read it as the writer’s perspective of herself.

Many times our reflection of ourselves shows up in our relationships. Many times our reflection of others shows up in how we treat ourselves.

Consider today how you might change perspectives and learn something new. Talk to yourself as though thrid person, as though looking at your relationship with yourself like it is external. What changes?

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Shirley Temples and Long Island Iced Teas

Shirley Temples and Long Island Iced Teas

a poem by Kris Jordan
(c) 2013
*this was orginally published in Anything Prose and Poetry, Too! (Anassa Publications, LLC)

Our date was on Saturday morning
I skipped cartoons to seal my hair back with a barrette
Wiggled into a ruffle trimmed dress
You wore cowboy boots and the smells-good I bought you for Father’s Day
You look pretty, you say
And I feel sugary swirly sweet- an exclusive gift from you

We went to the Garden of Eden where
they give everyone a balloon twisted into an apple
that
sits precariously in their hand
Under shaded lamps, baked apples are served beside every pork chop
My small fingers are hidden in your hard working
construction plumber baker strong hand

My thick short glass magnifies tiny bubbles resting on syrupy cherries
Yours is tall in a glass that stacks the ice to the lip
Not like the beer I see you drink
Not like the cans that
Litter our home, cause you to sleep, make you as recpetive as concrete

Sweat lingers in the creases of your forehead
You become irritable at the waitress
She brings you another tall glass
That’s what you wanted
A sexy, tall woman not a thick goofy child
She brings a third, maybe more
And I enjoy my food more than I should
Filling my round belly
Wondering if I’ll ever be satisfied
If I’ll ever be pretty

We get in to your truck and you spit us out into traffic,
shouting
Barely missing cars in either direction
You look at me ashamed
Sad
My knuckles grasping the door, my knees clenched to my chest
I’m sorry, you say
But I don’t believe it
You’ve said it too often

 

Author’s Commentary

One day when reflecting on my childhood and my relationship with my dad, I had this memory of a father-daughter date that went awry due to his addiction to alchol. In it, I saw my addiction to food. I thought about the different tools we use to cope with our unexpressed feelings, and that sense of not being in control, not feeling safe, and that desperation in feeling so scared.

For so many kids, growing up in a home with addiction and/or alcholism is very common. We must be able to recognize the children in our life are victims of circumstances outside their control and they need support. They need to be heard. They need to know as adults, they can choose coping strategies and life tools that allow them to grow past old ways of self preservation.

For you who have hurt in this way, I send you love and peace. I encourage you to do a search for Alanon or Adult Children of Alcholics or Celebrate Recovery or Addiction Support Groups and see if any resonate with you, and follow that prompting.  You have been impacted by addiction, but you can find tools to support you now. I love you!

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Let’s Go, Poem by Kris Jordan

Let’s Go

Poem © Kris Jordan 2016

Move to Albuquerque with me.

We’ll buy a small stucco home with a back patio full of sun

that shines into the house and makes it glow orange.

Wake up beside me as we lay on top of way too many blankets

like The Princess and the Pea.

The smell of incense in the air doesn’t disguise the

scent of last night’s passion.

We act like we’re 20, even though we’re far from it

giggling and wondering who the hell we think we are to be so young and silly.

Move to Albuquerque with me.

Let’s forget about this traffic and the siblings that rob us and let’s grow zucchini.

Does it grow there?

Let’s bless our dirt.

Let’s take the high road.

Let’s win.

 

Author’s Commentary

I wrote this poem after having a feeling of wanting to just start over. I think most of us feel this way at one time or another in our lives. I just felt like there was more drama than I wanted to deal with, and that somehow a relocation would make it all go away. Yet, someone once told me, “Wherever you go, there you are,” meaning, whether you relocate permanently or temporarily (ie. take a vacation), you are the same and therefore think the same thoughts and create the same results.

How does your mind create your reality today?

I am a big fan of personal development and have been focused on self-care more than ever these days. A HUGE part of this is being aware of my mindset- those things I think- and how they serve me. When they don’t help and rather hinder, I find ways, to the best of my ability to shift them. This includes exercise, meditation, sleep, a bath, a massage, a pedicure, listening to music…

“Let’s go” poem is a metaphor for changing our mind’s landscape by bringing ourselves into the place where we WANT to be. What is that for you today?

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7/20/12, 2012 Aurora Century Theater Shooting Poem

7/20/12

© ‘72012’ Poetry Kris Jordan 2016

7

20

12

Dead

56 Injured

1000’s affected

 

My daughter survived

Only survived

Still surviving.

 

3 hospital stays

2 suicide attempts

47 stitches

 

How many f*ing lives?

How much of my money

so a murderer can be housed and fed?

so we can heal?

so we can fight?

The expense is too high.

Too much!

He lives. We die.

 

Author’s Reflection

This one is hard for me. My daughter was an employee at the Aurora Century theater. It was her first job. She was 16. She was working the night of the shooting. Her life was shattered that night. My life took a turn that night. My child lived and is living with survivor’s guilt and PTSD that has almost killed her.

It hurts to know how much my daughter is hurting, to the point of her no longer wanting to live her life, because of someone else’s actions. She’s not in a place today to advocate for herself. She is not emotionally able to fight for her health. And so I pray.

I pray for her. I pray for me. I pray for me to not take a victim role, but rather to stand in the faith that everything happens for a reason. I stand in my belief that things happen FOR us, for greater purposes than we understand. I stand in my belief that people deserve love. I stand in the belief my daughter will be a thriver.

That doesn’t mean I’m not angry. I’m angry that some one else’s free will, some one else’s mental health issues, that some one else can hurt other people. I’m angry beyond belief. And this poem reflects that.

Today, I pray for the innumeral people who have been affected by the Aurora Century Theater Shooting or any other horrific act of violence. For what it’s worth, I believe in Justice and Love and pray for you.

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To the Death, Poetry by Kris Jordan

“Sometimes, they need to get away from the thing that makes them sick. Even if that toxic thing is you.”

To The Death

poetry (c) Kris Jordan

She loved him deeply

Profoundly

Blindly

Sickly.

Fought, until the death for his

Love

Abuse

Addiction

As though it was hers.

Yet it was.

Her love

Her self-abuse

Her addiction

 

There was no beginning and no end of her apart from him. He was everything and nothing. As though she was a single person, a single parent. Alone and yet not. Entwined. Entangled. Engulfed. Drowning.

 

She loved her deeply

Profoundly

Astoundingly.

Let go, terrified of her seemingly imminent death

Cried

Reached out

Hurt

As though it was hers.

Yet it was.

Her tears

Her self-care

Her pain

 

Detached yet caring, understanding she was never intended to be a part of her. She was meant to be unique, individual, autonomous, empowered. Strong. Loved. Supported, not enabled.

Released.

Released.

 

Released.

 

Author’s Reflection:

This poem looks at two different ways to be in relationship. One is attached, dysfunctional, and the other is “released”. Both are hard.

The second stanza is a look at my relationship with my kids. How hard it is to let go and let them experience their lives, wanting to keep them in the nest, yet also wanting them to be the beautiful women I have raised them to be.

Relationship, a truly healthy one, isn’t co-dependant, that is, they allow space for each person to be fully human, self-sufficient, empowered, while also demonstrating mutual respect and love.

Wikipedia defines codependency, and my favorite part states the balance we take when we aren’t, when we are in health: “Responsibility for relationships with others needs to coexist with responsibility to self….Someone truly recovered from codependency would feel empowered and like an author of their life and actions rather than being at the mercy of outside forces.”

How is your responsibility levels? Are you over responsible or under respondsible? Do you “own” other’s responsibilities?

Do you feel empowered? Are you the author of your own life now, even if you haven’t been in the past?

I encourage you to keep moving forward. Keep looking inward. Keep seeking… you are on the right path…remain curious about what your life is showing you.

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The Art of Con, Poem by Kris Jordan

The Art of Con

(c) Kris Jordan 2016

I tricked you.

Made you think I was confident, successful.

I made you see me as beautiful, worthy of being with you.

But you didn’t know it was a con.

Around you I’m just mush.

Convinced one day you will leave.

Scared you may be The One.

Scared you may not be The One.

I tricked you.

But you tell me I didn’t.

You tell me I am as great as I think I am.

You see more of me than I see in myself.

You tell me I can achieve the things I’ve set out to do, even though I haven’t done them yet.

You had me convinced I was more than a starving artist.

That one day I would again eat more than noodles and broth.

That one day love will seep through all my pores like I want it to.

That one day my smile will be genuine.

You made me believe I have value. Worth.

More than what my mind or body could offer,

That

JUST BY BEING

I am good enough.

I’m not what you see. I am simply scared flesh.

And you deserve better. So,

The con is on.

My race to convince you how unworthy I am and

Your race to convince me how beautiful I am.

Who will win?

Who will convince the other?

I’ve been told love wins.

God I hope that’s right.

 

Author’s Commentary

I think we all find ourselves as some point feeling like an imposter. Thinking some how we don’t deserve to be “here”, whatever or where ever “here” is. In this poem, I am reflecting on being in a relationship that at times, I don’t feel like I deserve. This really has be examine what I do think I deserve.

What do you think you deserve? How has that changed, or not changed, over time? Where are you a con and where are you con-vinced of something that isn’t true? Is there anyone con-vincing you otherwise and are you listening?

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Distraction, Poem by Kris Jordan

Distraction

Poetry (c) Kris Jordan 2016

I fell in love with distraction.

Grapes that were too sweet, limes that were too sour

bitter fortunes, salty tears.

Looking to fill an insatiable void

I stuffed my mouth full

which only allowed me to not speak

to not feel

to not know myself as deeply as I long to be known.

And discovered only that in knowing those feelings

the depth of my depravity-

only my truth

can fill the hole.

 

Author’s Reflection:

I feel like I’ve struggled with emotional overeating for most of my life. Food has become part of my soothing. It is something I turn to in order to calm down, to silence my anxiety. As the poem begins, there is this sense that my aliveness comes from these emotional sensations derived from food. Food is my pleasure and also my pain. Food is too much.

Recently I have learned just what a distraction overeating is for me. It distracts me from feeling faith with a Higher Power who is working things out. It distracts me from my true feelings, which keeps me from sharing them, rather, I push them down where they remain un-acknowledged. What am I really pushing down? Upon reflection, I think it is the belief that maybe I am too much.

I’m too much work. I’m too big. I’m a bother.

With these beliefs comes the idea that I am not worth love. I am not worth attention. I am not worth the effort. These have translated and manifested in me lacking my own self care.

I have been adding “lose weight”, in some form, to my goal list- whether new years, mid-year, mid-day, etc., for ever. I have lost weight and gained weight. I have eaten “the right foods” as well as not. I have read, I have listened, I have joined programs and support groups. Clearly, I have not been ready to release weight. But, I feel I get closer all the time. I get closer with every new awareness. Every time I let myself feel my feelings and inhabit my body, I get closer.

This year, I’d like to unlock more of what drives my addiction to food. I’d love to hear what strategies you have used to combat this cycle. How do you really, truly care for yourself rather than ask food to do it for you? Feel free to private message me your answer.

If you struggle with emotional overeating, I pray for you, and request the same. Let’s lift eachother up to create hope and connection for another day.

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Empty, Poem by Kris Jordan

Empty

(c) ‘Empty’ Poetry by Kris Jordan 2016

I put the ball in your court

let you choose

a friend or a lover

and you chose.

Lover in flesh only. Not in heart.

Partner in name only. Not in mind.

Present only. No future.

Until you were done with me.

Spun me around like a love sick dancer.

I deserved better. I deserved more.

You gave all you had to give. It wasn’t much, but I was willing to fill in the holes.

You didn’t want to be filled. Couldn’t hold what I had to give. I gave my all and you missed it. Every last drop.

Until it was gone.

I left

Empty

Then

you wanted more and I had nothing to give.

Author’s Reflection

Sometimes I feel I have a bunch of love to give, and I tend to want to give it to those deemed ‘difficult’ or ‘hard to love’. It’s a joke. I don’t think there are people who are hard to love. I do think, however, there are people who just don’t want to let love in.

I think it is fear. I mean, that’s what it’s been for me- when I don’t want to accept a compliment, it is usually because I am afraid they will continue and give me overbearing unwanted attention. This is a fear from my past when I lacked boundries and couldn’t or didn’t say ‘no’ when I desperately wanted to.

When I don’t want to “put someone out”, that is fear. Fear they may reject me or not like me or call me names like “unaccommodating” or “selfish”. I can’t stand such names. If they saw my heart, they would say, “She is so tender. She is so sweet. She is so scared.” They would coddle me like I long to be. They would protect me and my vulnerability rather than attack. I would feel safe.

Feeling Empty is a Choice

So, what I’m learning all this then is that I must decide to be safe. I must decide to say no when I mean it. I must make choices that fill me rather than leave me empty. I must choose to not pour into someone who treats my wine like the water run off from a sieve full of boiled noodles.

The story in the poem shows that I allowed the other person to choose. I gave up my power to decide. I put the ball in their court, willing to go along, and that left me empty, alone, hurting.

The problem is, yes, that I let them choose, but also that I thought they would fill me with their choice. Silly me- I am not their problem to solve. I choose to be full or to be empty. I choose how to dance, not just allow myself to be spun around. This is the difference between a victim and not.

Yes, I am still learning.

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Girl Interrupted and My Voice

As a YA Author, I write realistic (and usually dark) content.

I have been told a few times that my writing is like Girl Interrupted. I did a Google search of it to see what came up. I certainly heard of the movie- and love Wynona Ryder and Angelina Jolie, but I haven’t seen the movie. And I’m wondering if I should.

Would it connect me more with my readers? Or would it change my writing to something less authentic than my own voice and vision?

As a YA author, I have always written from my heart. I guess my heart is more dark, more deep, and maybe even more raw than I originally realized. The truth is, when I really look at it, I believe that challenges create character. Difficulties create who we are- for better or for worse. We can learn from the school of hard knocks, or we can let it take us down. We can be defined by our circumstances as either a victim or a victor.

We get to choose, but we don’t always know we have a choice.

I am a YA author who deals with the hard stuff that makes up real life. I bring to light our experiences.

In my first book, ‘Stain’, my main characters are Debbie and Rachel White, sisters who are dealing with their mother’s mental illness in their own ways. Debbie turns to drugs, as many people do who are struggling with making sense of things around them that they wish were different. I relate to Debbie’s character in that I really wished things were different for me when I was growing up. My mom and dad were married under 2 years- just long enough to get married and give birth to me. They divorced and my dad remarried when I was just 2 years old. My biological mother all but disappeared from my life. A criminal, an addict, a ‘fun girl’, she chose what she thought was best.

My dad had full custody of me- in the late 1970’s, that was unheard of. He and my stepmom were both alcholics and addicts. They did they best they could. I left carrying scars. Sometimes, they resurface. I wished things were different, but I can’t change the past.

I hope that in reading my ramblings, poems, and stories, you find that you are not alone, that you can have hope and that everything really does happen for a good end.

With Love,

K

 

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